Do not confuse desire and erection

The desire and the erection of the terms are often associated and confused. However, sexual failures are not necessarily related to a lack of desire. Conversely, treatment of erectile dysfunction do not make the economy of desire. Some tips to raise the share of things.

 
If a man has erectile dysfunction, it probably does not want to risk a failure and therefore, it inhibits her desire. However, this does not mean he rejects her partner or he finds most attractive. Conversely, inducers of erections are not triggers an erection and these drugs only work if there is desire. Discover the close links between desire and erection, too often confused.

Desire to pleasure
According ADIRS, "sexual desire is the ability to positively consider sexual activity and to trigger sexual arousal. It encompasses both the desire to have sex with her partner but also the fact of having sexual thoughts spontaneously. Thus, lack of desire is not necessarily linked to the partner because desire is a personal capacity. Furthermore, it is possible to feel desire and not having an erection. "We may have the desire without the body responds this! This is not very common because usually when there is desire erection even if it is not satisfactory or if it does not last because of a problem of premature ejaculation for example, "explains Alain Héril, sex therapist.

Causes physiological and psychological
Erectile dysfunction may be due to a medication (in case ofhypertension particular) or a stressful situation involving great physical fatigue. You can also find this situation in elderly subjects who have prostate problems or sluggish venous circulation difficulties. It should be noted that taking drugs can cause erectile failure even if very powerful desire.

In a more psychological, the erectile dysfunction may be related to a fear of sex: "The head says 'yes' and body 'no' because there is planning concepts forbidden (a married man and his mistress) or blockage in the child who will update when acting out "continues Alain Héril.

How to match desire and erection? Normally, this happens naturally. It is a "mechanism" included in male sexuality. If this is difficult, it is good to trust his fantasies, do not hesitate to mention them, to projecting inwardly as exciting visualizations. The fantasy is the engine of desire!

How and by whom to get help
If the problem persists or tends to return, it may be necessary to get help. Some consultation with a sex therapist should solve the problem. But the first party is the natural doctor. This will remove all problems "functional". Depending on the problem, it may if necessary refer you to a specialist (urologist, andrologist, sexologist ...). But doctors are now better equipped to treat erectile dysfunction, thanks in part to new inducers of erection.

The drugs do not replace the desire
"It does not need me to desire with the medicine!", "It is I who creates excitement or is the medicine?" "If he needs pills to make love, c ' is he no longer loves me "... Some women are troubled by the emergence of a drug in the privacy of their relationship. But these reactions are primarily due to ignorance of modes of action of inducers of erection of the class of phosphodiesterase-5 (Cialis ®, Viagra ®, Levitra ® ...). These medications are not erections on command. Only a context of sexual excitement, of complicity with the partner and provides mutual desire to achieve an erection. The erection is not synonymous with desire and in this case, the drug is a technical aid, a crutch to materialize a desire.

Other women fear, become the object of his insatiable fantasies companion ... No fear, inducers of erections do not act in the brain. The drug should not upset the sexual appetite, it simply flesh out his wish.

Some tips in case of erectile dysfunction
Here are some tips for finding a satisfactory erection: First round, do not dramatize the situation, it is important to relax for an erection needs mental peace to develop fully. Emphasize the preliminary permit the erection of future taking its time.

"You can practice masturbation to learn to control your body and your desire for a desire sometimes too hard can prevent the erection," says Alain Héril. Also trust your partner can help you put things into perspective. Put the game and laughter in her sexuality is a good way to trigger the desire ... and the erection.

Finally, solutions exist today to treat erectile dysfunction. Must still dare to visit one or couples to become eligible. Today, health professionals are better trained to address the issue and provide appropriate treatment. So do not suffer more in silence.

 

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