Outages sex: the real role of women

The gender breakdown is often experienced by man as a catastrophe. But what are the consequences of such a failure in his partner? Victim or castrating: what is its role? How can it help? ... Ending years of taboo, Doctissimo will unveil the hidden face of erectile dysfunction.
 
The causes of erectile dysfunction are numerous: from simple stress stroke fatigue, through organic disorders such as diabetes or neurological causes. Given this critical moment lived by man as a challenge to his manhood, what is the proper role of his partner?

No picture guy!
According to a Louis Harris survey1One woman in four has already been faced with erectile dysfunction during sexual life. But what is its influence in the development or maintenance of these disorders in humans? Is this a spectator stampede or her role is it more complex?

Strangely, this phenomenon has hitherto been little studied as regret at the XVe World Congress of Sexology2Dr. Mireille Bonierbale psychiatrist sexologist at CHU Sainte Marguerite Marseille. At most, a few investigations3,4,5,6 timidly suggest possible characteristics: greater frequency of sexual dysfunction, sexual demand for inhibitory effects in humans, or otherwise impaired desire, although it is difficult in this case, whether it 's acts of a cause or a consequence of male disorders. But the low number of women participating in this work can not really see things more clearly.

And now, for many experts, provide a portrait type of women is rather heresy! "There is no specific characteristics of the partner of a male victim of erectile dysfunction. Such a description would imply a responsibility of women in the occurrence of these failures. But in the vast majority of cases, they are just victims, "says Dr. Antoine Lemaire, president of the Association for the development of information and research on sexuality (ADIRS). Several investigations support this particular vision of an impaired quality of life for these women7.8.

Does that mean that it is possible to isolate the treatment of erectile dysfunction of any emotional environment? Of course not because it is a disturbance of the harmony of the couple that is.

Do not isolate the disturbance torque
The emotional environment of the couple is important to know the factors triggering failures and their durability: Why do these problems did they get there? When? Why these occasional failures do they tend to come back? What is the starting point of this fear of failure and This vicious circle so scary? ... Taking into account these interactions within the couple are indicators to optimize treatment.

Thus, according to Dr. Mireille Bonierbale, treatment outcomes can be facilitated by certain factors (willingness to find a good harmony sex within marriage, the permanence of erotic attraction partners, mutual expectations, omnipresence of dialogue ...) or disabled by others (conflict extramarital concomitant lack of motivation or desire for a partner ...).

Thus, if the woman can induce sexual failure, it may still be an underlying problem in a subject already fragile. "The reproaches unexpressed because of misunderstanding or miscommunication, resentment, an aggressive attitude ... can cause maintenance problems. Only good communication within the couple will overcome this ordeal without a partner in the sink the agony of defeat next ... "reflects Dr. Antoine Lemaire.

Less frequently, psychiatric disorders may also have an impact on the couple's sexuality. Thus, the consequences stress and depression are well known.

Help him to climb back
So how do the best? "For women, it should act with empathy and to listen to his partner. Finding the right words to reassure the man, reminding him that sexuality is not limited only to the penetration, but may find a new dimension in the preliminaries, "says Dr. Antoine Lemaire. For you ladies, the watchword is to dramatize without questioning his manhood. Do not feel guilty, your sex appeal is not an issue! Do not try to put pressure by increasing assaults but rather invite to discover other ways to pleasure, while the reassuring constancy of your desire. The task is not always easy because the man is sometimes a tendency to withdraw into himself.

To you gentlemen, it is not necessary for you bent on any price on a failing erection. The nervousness and anxiety should not make things better. Know that your caresses, your massage and your kisses can give your partner a lot of fun. On the other hand, do not jump to hasty conclusion, this is not the end of deut, 42% of men admit to having experienced such a failure9.

Communicate and consult if necessary!
The restoration of communication within the couple will overcome these difficulties. If the problem recurs, the partner may invite the man to consult a specialist (andrologist, sexologist or urologist) in possibly offering him to accompany him. "The doctor will be able to identify any errors and / or provide a treatment that will allow man to regain confidence and put an end to these problems," told us about this Dr. Agnès Mocquard. You can also find the full interview "Finding the right words".

Based on his clinical practice, Dr. Antoine Lemaire reveals that the lead female is fairly common. It is even, he said, the best attitude to adopt, so healing must pass through the active participation of the partner. Today, effective treatments exist including inhibitors of phosphodiesterase 5, which have recently enriched novel compounds sildenafil (Viagra ®), Vardenafil (Levitra ®) And Tadalafil (Cialis ®) ...

The duration of efficacy of this compound can last up to 36 hours10. This delay allows decoupling of taking the drug and sex, a definite advantage in the eyes of some (and some).

Highly effective, these drugs do not replace in any way to the attraction of the partner. Do not worry ladies, they have no effect in the absence of sexual desire. Such an approach helps restore intimacy and sexual harmony of the couple11. Finally, the problem is more recent, the better it is treatable. So if your fault you really undermine the existence, do not wait!

 

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